Maddie’s TikTok video focuses on dismissive relationship behavior
TikTok creator Maddie (@maddie_bado) has started a series about what she describes as “signs of a loser boyfriend.” In a video shared on 19 August, Maddie said she could probably make a 30,000-part series on the subject, although the post was presented as the first installment.
The video’s caption reads, “Just remembered this so randomly and I’m mad again,” and it had received more than 28,100 likes at the time of publication. Maddie filmed herself sitting in a car while wearing a white tank top and large sunglasses as she explained the first behavior on her list.
Her example concerned men who respond to a woman’s excitement about an outfit, accessory or similar choice by saying ‘no one cares.’ Maddie said a man who reacts that way needs to ‘pack it up.’ The point drew strong support from viewers, most of whom appeared to be women.
Why saying ‘no one cares’ can feel dismissive
Maddie acknowledged that a man may believe he is helping by preventing a woman from spiraling or overthinking a minor decision. However, she argued that the woman may simply be enjoying the moment and looking for playful engagement, meaning there is no need to “rain on her parade.”
She described the choice as an “inconsequential decision in the grand scheme of things,” but said that women should still be allowed to have fun with it. Maddie also argued that some men use dismissive phrases to avoid offering feedback or participating in a conversation with their partners.
TikTok commenters add their own examples
Women responding in the comments shared additional behaviors they considered relationship red flags. One commenter said some men expect women to show interest in their hobbies, including sports, while failing to extend the same consideration to women’s interests.
Another commenter expanded on Maddie’s point by describing men who repeatedly answer ‘either is fine’ or ‘whatever you like better’ when their partners directly ask for an opinion. In that commenter’s view, such responses can function as a way to avoid engaging with the conversation.
A woman named Laura said some men “absolutely demolish excitement.” She said that when she or women she knows become excited or joyful about something, the man responds with the mood of Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh and brings the same fed-up energy to the interaction. “It’s okay to be happy,” Laura added.
Other behaviors labeled “loser” behavior
Another commenter offered “a very specific” example: men who can barely form friendships outside the group of friends they had in high school. She said such a man may be unable to make new friends or may be so intolerable that only a particular group from years earlier can stand being around him.
The commenter warned anyone with a boyfriend or husband who behaves that way to “grab her stuff and go.” The comments reflect the personal experiences and opinions of individual TikTok users rather than independently verified evidence about the people or relationships discussed.
Why This Matters
The video illustrates how social media discussions about dating often focus on everyday communication habits rather than major relationship events. Maddie’s example centers on whether partners respond to small moments of enthusiasm with curiosity and support or with language that shuts the conversation down.
The Daily Dot was unable to independently verify the personal experiences described by commenters. The details reflect the video shared on TikTok by @maddie_bado and the responses posted beneath it.
Frequently Asked Questions
Who posted the TikTok video?
The video was posted by Maddie, whose TikTok account is @maddie_bado.
What behavior did Maddie identify as her first example?
She criticized men who respond to a woman’s excitement about an outfit or accessory by saying ‘no one cares,’ saying they need to ‘pack it up.’
What other examples did commenters mention?
Commenters mentioned men who dismiss women’s hobbies, avoid offering opinions by saying ‘either is fine’ or ‘whatever you like better,’ respond negatively to excitement, and struggle to make friends outside an old high-school friend group.