- TikTok creator @_datboydebo outlined three first-date mistakes he says many men make.
- His advice included keeping the first date simple, asking questions and observing how a date treats others.
- The July 28 video received 5,082 likes, 875 saves, 43 comments and 115 shares at the time of publication.
TikTok creator shares first-date advice for men
TikTok creator @_datboydebo has offered advice on how men can approach a first date, focusing on expectations, conversation and romantic gestures. The video, posted on July 28, was captioned, “3 mistakes most men make on the first date.”
At the time of publication, the TikTok had attracted 5,082 likes, 875 saves, 43 comments and 115 shares. Debo began by identifying what he described as the most common error: “Number one, is y’all do way too much.”
He argued that some men try to project a lifestyle they do not actually live. Debo said, “Fellas, we’re not trying to show this girl the world […] we’re just trying to show her a little something.” He criticized choosing expensive restaurants simply for “breaking your pocket just to show her like, oh yeah, baby, I’m having it.”
Why Debo says men should keep a first date simple
Debo compared a first date with taking someone to an amusement park for the first time. “You don’t take a baby to Disneyland because then when you bring her to the park, it’s not going to appreciate the park,” he explained. He encouraged men to “slow the game down” and “start off small.”
He summarized that approach by saying, “Stop trying to impress the prospect and leave an impression on her, two very different things,” the TikToker said.
The video’s TikTok caption also included the text @_datboydebo Lets HOOP fellas?️ #fyp #freegame #datboydebo, alongside the audio credit “original sound – Haise.”
Questions, conversation and observing behavior
Debo’s second point concerned leaving a date without learning anything about the other person. “Number two is y’all not getting no information,” he said. He clarified, “I’m not saying you got to cross-examine the prospect,” before advising men, “Don’t be afraid to ask about past relationships.”
He also encouraged viewers to pay attention to behavior during the date. “How does she talk to the waiters, is she polite,” he asked. He added, “What is her body language like.”
Debo encourages romance and confidence
For his third point, Debo said men should not avoid romantic behavior because they fear appearing awkward. “This is what we work for y’all, this is what we do this for so we can display our bag,” he said. He encouraged men to “hold the door open for her” and “act like a gentleman.”
He also urged men to embrace romance, saying, “Don’t be afraid to get jiggy with her,” the creator said. Describing a possible end to the date at the woman’s home, he said, “You should be outside her crib just like five minutes,” he said. “If she stays in that car for five minutes, let’s just say that the night might still go on.”
Commenters respond to the first-date advice
Several commenters supported Debo’s recommendation to keep the first date uncomplicated. One commenter wrote, “First date take her to chipotle, movies, chic fil a [sic] or cava… keep it simple.”
Another commenter explained why asking questions could help reduce pressure during a date: “Asking questions is good because it shifts the pressure from being on you, to now being on here [sic],” a commenter wrote. “Instead of you being the one under scrutiny where every move being watched, now the pressure is flipped onto her and she feels that.”
One viewer said Debo had omitted advice about confidence in another setting: “One thing Debo don’t [sic] teach is how to shoot wit [sic] confidence that’s how I can beat coach in a 1on1 game,” the commenter wrote.
Why This Matters
The TikTok reflects how social media creators are using short-form videos to offer informal dating advice built around practical decisions, including the cost of a first date, the importance of conversation and how people behave toward others. The response also shows that viewers engaged with both the dating guidance and the creator’s broader comments about confidence.
The Daily Dot was unable to independently verify the claims described in this TikTok. The details above reflect @_datboydebo’s account as shared on TikTok. His identity and the commenters’ usernames have not been confirmed.
Frequently Asked Questions
What were @_datboydebo’s three first-date points?
Debo said men can make the mistake of doing too much, failing to learn information about their date and avoiding romantic gestures because they fear looking awkward.
What did Debo recommend for a first date?
He advised men to keep the date simple, ask questions, observe how their date treats waiters and act like a gentleman.
How did viewers respond to the TikTok?
Commenters discussed keeping a first date affordable and simple, the value of asking questions and the importance of confidence. One commenter also said Debo had not addressed confidence when shooting in a one-on-one basketball game.