TikTok Creator Describes Disastrous First Date
TikTok content creator @christiancooks99 described what he considered the most inconsiderate first date he had experienced in a video that received more than 954,000 views and 900 comments. According to Christian, he matched with a woman on Hinge whom he called Lady after encountering her profile several times on the dating app.
Christian said Lady eventually responded to his message, exchanged phone numbers with him and continued getting to know him through text. He viewed her relatively quick replies, updates about her daily activities and courteous manner as positive signs. The pair agreed to meet at 6:30 p.m. on a weekday, and Christian confirmed their plans again the day before the date.
He chose a restaurant about five minutes from his apartment because he planned to return home in time to watch an NFL game. Christian said he arrived at approximately 6:30 p.m. and texted Lady to let her know he was there. She initially replied that she was getting ready and excited to see him, but then stopped responding to his messages.
Lady Arrived About 90 Minutes Late
Christian said he sent four texts between 6:30 and 7:10 p.m., spacing them roughly 10 to 15 minutes apart. After receiving no response for about 40 minutes, he believed he was being ghosted. Because he had ordered only a glass of water, he left the restaurant and returned home.
At approximately 8 p.m., Christian said Lady finally contacted him—about an hour and a half after their scheduled meeting time. Her response was, “I’m so sorry. It took me a little longer than usual to get ready. I just got here.”
Despite the delay, Christian said he got dressed again and returned to the restaurant. He texted Lady that he would arrive within 10 minutes. He said her response was, “If you’re not here by 8:30, I’m leaving.”
Christian arrived at about 8:15 p.m. When they met, he said Lady told him it was not nice to keep a woman waiting. He said she appeared serious rather than playful. After they began talking, Christian asked whether she remembered that their date was scheduled for 6:30 p.m. Her response was, “Yeah. . . I told you I was gonna be late, right?” Christian said he reminded her that she had not replied to his messages.
Date Ends With a Napkin Note and the Restaurant Bill
Christian said he could not determine from Lady’s tone and body language whether she was being sarcastic or flirtatious. He soon concluded that she was flirting with the food server, however, after she complimented the server’s hair and jewelry.
Christian said he asked to be excused to use the bathroom so he could decide how to end the evening. When he returned, Lady had taken her food and left the restaurant. According to Christian, she left a note on a napkin that read, “Went to O’Tools to watch the game.” He said he was then left to pay the bill for both of them.
The video’s commenters urged Christian to establish firmer boundaries while dating. One commenter wrote, “Have strict boundaries Christian, you seem kind and empathetic and many people can take advantage of that.”
Another commenter criticized Christian for staying after the delayed arrival and wrote, “She is not very considerate. I hope there is no date number 2. You should have left after drinks.”
A third commenter said Christian should not have continued responding after Lady failed to appear on time: “No response to 6:45 text, leave and do not respond to her attempts to contact. Everything after 6:50 is your fault.”
Why This Matters
The account highlights how unclear communication and weak boundaries can escalate an already uncomfortable dating situation. Christian initially interpreted Lady’s messages and courteous behavior as positive indicators, but the missed replies, substantial delay and conduct at the restaurant changed his assessment of the date.
The events described in the video have not been independently verified. The Daily Dot reported that the story was based solely on @christiancooks99’s account of his first-date experience.
Frequently Asked Questions
Who described the date?
TikTok content creator @christiancooks99 shared the account in a video about his first date with a woman he called Lady.
How late did Lady arrive?
The date was scheduled for 6:30 p.m. Christian said Lady contacted him at about 8 p.m. and arrived at the restaurant around 8:15 p.m.
Was the account independently verified?
No. The Daily Dot said it could not independently verify the events described in the TikTok video.