Daily News 19

Tag: Dating deception

  • Man Lied About 10-Year Age Gap; Girlfriend Discovers Real Difference Is 25 Years

    Man Lied About 10-Year Age Gap; Girlfriend Discovers Real Difference Is 25 Years

    Key Highlights

    • A woman discovered the man she dated for about a month was 25 years older than her, not the 10-year gap he claimed, after verifying his age through public records and LinkedIn.
    • The man admitted he lied about his age to gain “greater access to younger women,” stating most women his actual age would not be interested and that he wants children.
    • Reddit commenters raised concerns about the ethics of age deception in dating, the medical realities of paternal age, and the long-term caregiving burden on younger partners.

    Discovery of a 25-Year Age Gap Shatters Month-Long Relationship

    A Reddit user posting under the handle u/SweetQuality8943 in the subreddit r/GirlDinnerDiaries detailed a disturbing discovery after roughly a month of dating. The poster wrote that the man had described himself as a “90s kid”, a detail that initially supported his claimed age. However, a check of his LinkedIn profile revealed he had finished graduate school before she was born, exposing a 25-year age difference rather than the 10 years he had represented.

    According to the post, the pair had been “talking daily and building a ‘great chemistry’” and he “still looked young” and “took visible care of his body”, factors the poster said made the true age gap less obvious during their time together. The dynamic shifted after their last date when the woman, having already confirmed his real age through public records, confronted him directly.

    Confrontation Reveals Calculated Deception Strategy

    When faced with the evidence, the man admitted to lying. The poster described his reaction as “very deer in the headlights.” She pressed him on how long he would have maintained the deception, writing that “he didn’t have an answer.” His stated motive, as recounted in the post, was blunt: he wanted “greater access to younger women,” reasoning that most women his actual age would not be interested in him, and that he wants children. He reportedly claimed he has only dated women under 30, though he insisted he does not go younger than 23.

    When the poster asked whether he had used the same tactic with other women, he became “cagey and awkward” instead of providing a clear denial. His final response to her distress was a line she said caused her remaining feelings to “just deflate”: “But I’m still me.”

    Community Response Highlights Ethical and Medical Concerns

    The post triggered a wave of comments examining both the emotional manipulation and the factual basis of the man’s stated desire for children. One commenter directly challenged the fertility rationale, writing: “Lying about his age cuz [sic] he wants kids? His 50 year old sperm is NOT quality. Once men hit 40, sperm quality goes down.”

    Another user described the visceral reaction to the story’s severity, stating: “Sometimes I read the title of a post and think, well this isn’t so bad, you may be over-reacting. Then I read a story like this and …….gawt-DAM, you’re not over-reacting!”

    A broader critique of the dating landscape emerged from a commenter who wrote: “You ever online date? The amount of men that lie about their age to try and get younger women is so gross. They often use the excuse they want kids, man that ship sailed. It is also so horrible to manipulate women because you feel entitled to a kid.”

    Long-term implications were also raised. One commenter warned: “Whatever young woman has his kids, will jump from being a mom to being a caretaker for her senior husband.”

    Why This Matters

    This incident underscores persistent safety and authenticity issues in modern dating, particularly on platforms where self-reported information goes unverified. The case illustrates how easily identifiable public records—such as LinkedIn employment history and public records—can contradict curated personas, yet the burden of verification still falls almost entirely on the individual dater. The man’s explicit admission that he lied to bypass age filters for “greater access” reveals a calculated strategy to override the informed consent of potential partners. Furthermore, the discussion highlights a growing awareness of paternal age effects on fertility and offspring health, challenging the common narrative that only maternal age matters in family planning. The commentary on future caregiving dynamics also points to the often-overlooked long-term equity issues in relationships with large age gaps.

    Frequently Asked Questions

    How did the woman discover the man’s real age?

    She verified his age through public records and cross-referenced his LinkedIn profile, which showed he had completed graduate school before she was born, contradicting his claim of being a “90s kid” and roughly 10 years older.

    What reason did the man give for lying about his age?

    He admitted he lied to gain “greater access to younger women,” explaining that most women his actual age would not be interested in him and that he wants to have children.

    Has the story been independently verified?

    No. The Daily Dot, which reported on the Reddit post, stated it could not independently verify the events described, the man’s age or identity, or the medical claims made by commenters regarding sperm quality.

  • Reddit User Revokes Friend’s Apartment Patio Access After Dates: “Permanent Invitation”

    Reddit User Revokes Friend’s Apartment Patio Access After Dates: “Permanent Invitation”

    A Reddit user revoked his friend’s access to a private apartment rooftop patio after discovering the friend had been repeatedly using the space for dates. The user, who posts under the handle Critical-Salary-4669, shared the story on the r/AITAPod subreddit to ask whether he was wrong to remove access without a second warning.

    How the Arrangement Began

    The situation started when the friend asked to bring a woman to the rooftop because his own building was under construction. The original poster (OP) agreed and provided guest access through the building’s app system.

    Access Expanded Without Permission

    Over time, the friend began using the patio far beyond the original agreement. OP discovered through the building app that the friend had used the guest access several additional times. The friend eventually admitted he had been bringing different women to the rooftop as part of his dating routine.

    “I later realized through the building app that he’d used my guest access several more times. When I asked him about it he laughed and admitted he’d been bringing dates there because the rooftop had become his ‘secret weapon,’” the user wrote. “And based on what he told me he never corrected them when they assumed he lived in the building, which I thought was pretty weird.”

    OP said he became uncomfortable with the continued use and wanted it to stop. He subsequently revoked the friend’s access. The friend later attempted to bring another date to the rooftop, only to find his entry code no longer worked.

    Friend Reacts Angrily After Being Denied Entry

    According to the post, the friend was upset and contacted OP after the failed date attempt.

    “Apparently he had planned the whole date around the rooftop and suddenly had nowhere to take her, so they basically stood outside figuring out what to do next,” the user wrote. “Now he’s pissed because he says even if I wanted to revoke access, I should’ve warned him so he could make other plans. I think after being told to stop using someone else’s building for dates, you probably shouldn’t assume the code is still yours to use.”

    Reddit Community Weighs In

    The post garnered over 3,400 upvotes and 246 comments. The discussion centered on whether OP had an obligation to provide an additional warning before cutting off access.

    Many commenters supported OP’s decision, arguing the friend had already crossed a clear boundary.

    “Yep. Friend disrespected his boundary, then laughed in his face when told to stop. Simply taking back access required no further notification. In fact, having the friend be embarrassed on one random date was the perfect (and reasonable severity) way to let his friend know that OP is no pushover, and not to abuse his generosity in the future,” one user wrote.

    Others criticized the friend’s behavior toward his dates.

    “NTA. Your friend is shady and using your rooftop to lie to dates. He’s a douche,” the commenter wrote.

    Several users noted that OP had already expressed discomfort, which should have served as sufficient notice.

    “A normal person would understand that you saying you weren’t comfortable with him using it anymore was a warning,” one commenter wrote.

    Ongoing Debate: Privilege vs. Permanent Arrangement

    The thread largely debated whether the rooftop access constituted an ongoing arrangement or a revocable privilege. Most commenters viewed it as a privilege the apartment resident could withdraw at any time, especially after the friend ignored the initial request to stop.

    The Daily Dot was unable to independently verify the events described in the Reddit post, which are based solely on Critical-Salary-4669’s account.