Key Highlights
- TikTok user @undiagnosedanthony, who goes by Anthony, says he has been single for about seven years.
- His video criticizing the advice that relationships happen “when you least expect it” has received 138,200 views and 384 comments.
- Viewers responded with a mix of agreement, dating advice and differing opinions about settling versus continuing to search for a partner.
Anthony Criticizes Familiar Dating Advice on TikTok
Being single and navigating modern dating can be complicated, even in an era when social media appears to make meeting people easier. TikTok user @undiagnosedanthony, who goes by Anthony, has drawn attention after posting a video about his frustration with remaining single and repeatedly hearing that a relationship will arrive when he least expects it.
Anthony’s video had accumulated 138,200 views and 384 comments. In the clip, he challenges the familiar idea that romance appears unexpectedly, saying:
“You know how people say with regards to a relationship, it happens when you least expect it. It happens when you least expect it. Well, I’ve been least expecting it for about seven years now. So apparently it doesn’t f—— happen when you least expect it. Do you know what I mean?”
He delivers the complaint with an exasperated, sarcastic tone, giving the post a lighthearted quality despite the frustration behind it. The video’s caption reads “Sick of it #single,” and the post uses an original sound attributed to undiagnosedanthony.
TikToker Says Dating Has Not Led to a Relationship
Anthony continues by questioning whether finding a relationship may depend on settling or going through an especially large number of dates. Referring to his own experience, he says:
“In fact, I reckon it happens when you settle. No, I reckon it happens when you f—– go on 153 dates, which is just something that I’m not willing to do right now. Do you know what I mean?”
The remarks prompted viewers to discuss their own experiences with dating, relationships and the pressure to accept a partner who may not be the right match. The Daily Dot reported that it was unable to independently verify Anthony’s dating experiences, which are based solely on his account of being single for seven years and his claim that he has gone on 153 dates.
Viewers Share Conflicting Opinions About Finding Love
Some commenters said they understood Anthony’s frustration. One user wrote:
“I do know what you mean, Anthony ,”
Another commenter agreed with Anthony’s suggestion that some people enter relationships after settling, arguing that social expectations can influence how relationships are judged:
“ABSOLUTELY happens when you settle. Most of the girls I know don’t even like the guys they’re with. But society deems them more normal than people who won’t put up with someone they don’t want and would rather be single,”
Other viewers offered a more optimistic view, suggesting that successful relationships may develop through mutual challenge, compatibility and personal growth rather than through settling. One commenter said:
“I think it happens when you understand Mr perfect isn’t going to come along and you meet someone who challenges you and you challenge them. You both grow into better people together,”
A separate commenter said they planned to continue looking for a partner despite becoming frustrated by the process and repeatedly having to ask potential dates questions:
“or just stop looking and he will find you um no i see these ppls comments and how long they’ve been single im good i will not stop looking lol but I also am sick of asking 101 questions ,”
Why This Matters
Anthony’s TikTok illustrates how familiar dating advice can be received differently by people who have spent years looking for a relationship. The responses also show that viewers disagree about whether finding a partner requires patience, compromise, personal growth or continued effort. In this case, the discussion remains centered on Anthony’s own account and the reactions of TikTok users rather than independently verified dating statistics or experiences.
Frequently Asked Questions
Who is @undiagnosedanthony?
@undiagnosedanthony is a TikTok user who goes by Anthony. He posted a video about being single for about seven years and his frustration with advice that a relationship will happen when he least expects it.
How many people viewed Anthony’s TikTok video?
The video had received 138,200 views and 384 comments.
What did viewers say about Anthony’s dating experience?
Commenters expressed a range of views. Some agreed that people sometimes settle in relationships, while others said compatibility, mutual challenge and personal growth are more important. One viewer also said they would continue looking for a partner despite being frustrated with dating.